Arlin Cuncic has been writing about mental health since 2007, specializing in social anxiety disorder and depression topics. She served as the managing editor of the "Journal of Attention Disorders" and has worked in a variety of research settings. She explains: "This time the attraction was his mind, and because of the veneer I had gained in my first marriage, he assumed I came from higher up the social scale than I really did.But although he liked my warmth and spirit, he was frustrated that I hadn't developed as an intellectual."The third man in Yvonne's life and father of Joseph, 7, was "definitely working class" and it was his uninhibited lust for fun, his emotional openness and "towering, illuminating" sexuality which were the pull this time.But the fact that Laurence is very intelligent is as important as anything.
Although this is not a deal-breaker, it can take time to get comfortable with the idea that there is a natural imbalance of power in the relationship that will be hard to change.
She laughs: "He had a very upper-class voice and it turned me on completely.
I had been sent to lessons to learn to talk like that and here was the real thing." She had a child, Titus, 26, with him, but the marriage failed and she moved in with "an upper middle-class bohemian intellectual" and they too had a child, Daniel, 17.
People from different social classes have different ways of acting -- similar to a culture -- that can take time to understand.
If your boyfriend has enough family money to buy designer clothing, drive his own sports car and apply to dozens of colleges, while you are flipping burgers at the local hamburger joint to scrape together enough money to attend the local community college, you may have trouble seeing eye to eye.