"I live in hope that men will stop emailing hoping to change my mind Actually, I am not looking for emails at all....................
I have my profile listed as "friends" - "forums" is currently not an option.
Well, this is a dating site like you said so what do they expect? The only ones who say they are looking for friends are just looking for the long road to get into a woman's pants."You're right.
I say that because it really does seem like guys who come here for friendship only are totally delusional or shooting themselves in the foot. Guys don't go on a dating site looking for female "friends".
I have an account to be able to read and post in the forums, but I'm also open to meeting people and making new friends.
I figure there are a lot of interesting people on here who I might not cross paths with in real life, so why not leave the possibility open?
If a guy tells you he just wants to be friends, it means he got what he wanted....
Deep down, I think coming here for friends is masquerading as ultimately wanting to date.
I can see a few channels that thoughts about this are falling into: - People who are serious about searching for a long term partner, who resent those who are "clogging the scene" in a search for friendships alone.Plus in all likelihood you will judge me as 'bad' or 'wrong' for some of the things in my behavior limitations so I am not going to be direct with them, you have to read my mind, and know it's inherent in my definition of 'friends'.""IOW I want the power to control your behavior towards giving me what I want, but I have no desire for the responsibility and possible negative judgments. BUT, will take advantage of "dating", meaning let the guy pay the first couple of times.....Therefore I go through the back door and offer you the false gift of friendship. If the man says lets go hang out and says "lets go dutch"....she can pull the "I cant beleive you asked me out and want me to pay!!! ....she can pull the "I do want a friend, I want a lover and a friend, hoping to find both"If you come across a woman looking for friends, call her bluff, ask her out and when the bill comes say...."well here is my half"..see what kind of reaction you get.....1.(and so do you ;) )This is not just a dating site otherwise there would be no option for just looking for talk/email or friends.Stop being so concerned about what other people are doing and pay attention to your own life.